My Journey Through The Raped Highway 

                                            Chapter 2: Slut Shaming; Who Gave You The Right To Label?

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Slut is a tag or a label placed on women and girls who are considered to have loose sexual morals or promiscuous ways. This sexual slur is used mainly against women and the men are also tagged as man whores.

Now who makes these rules? Who was appointed as the custodian of the global dress code? It usually sounds so stupid when you see people, especially the “supposed religious ones” act as if their moral ideals should be adopted as the global measuring tape for decency.

How does society see decency? What do the members of society define decency as? These are pending questions we need to ask ourselves before we even begin to measure the boundaries that cut sluts off from the basic respect they deserve.
Decency is usually perceived as accepted standards of morality or respectability, but let’s look deeper into this plain field. Do we really think this very vague idea of decency is viable for the very diverse world we live in?

Let me bring you guys to my world for a minute. I am currently a student of a university in Nigeria, they refer to themselves as a Christian missionary school and claim a lot of moral standards which they apply in every rule entrenched in their handbook. Now, allow me to reveal to you the depth of their moral hypocrisy.

We are not allowed to listen to any song other than gospel music, they call other songs “secular music” and label these songs “music from/of the devil”. We still listen to them anyways but can’t play them out loud and I it’s pretty obvious that parties are banned also.

We are not allowed to wear shorts and sleeveless shirts out of our halls, their reason being that the male students will reveal their masculine legs and muscles and impregnate the ladies on sight. This sounds funny but I wouldn’t be shocked if it was actually their original reason.

Phones are banned, for no single reason, just because they feel like, or maybe they think we will use it to get ourselves pregnant. There was actually an unverified rumour that spread through out the school that the reason behind the sudden ban on phones was because a student’s phone rang out loud during a chapel service.

Chapel service is also another side to it, everyone is forced to go and absence in this multi-day weekly event may warrant disciplinary action as high as suspension. Students go to church in my school just so that they can swipe their ID Cards and be counted on the attendance list, no more no less.

They keep preaching and preaching their ideals and ignoring the actual Christian message, painting their own institution as the only place the Most High’s Grace flows in, sometimes I feel that they have forgotten that Heavenly Grace is the freest commodity our human existence possesses, including the air we breathe (which can even be polluted).

The ladies are not allowed to wear skirts that doesn’t touch and pass their knees in length, most of them just put on skirt-trousers to avoid unnecessary debates with authorities. Very long skirts have even become a fashion trend in the school. The shoulders of the ladies are also banned from exposure, it is like they are about to commit adultery whenever they fail to cover their shoulders.

The Staffs of the school are always wearing very large suits, even in the hottest weather, they fear not, their suits always stays hot, the fire in them keeps burning. Many of the female staffs wear skirts that sweep the floors, sometimes wonder why they didn’t just put on nice trousers, but you know, to be the custodian of morals and dress decency you need to prove yourself right?

Low-cut is the only allowed hairstyle for male students, no beards are allowed and sometimes you may be told to shave of your moustache and strip your face of what’s left of its pride. Sometimes the idea behind the hair is that some hairstyles might be from the devil and cut in a barbing saloon operating all the way in “hell”.

Kissing, strolling with the opposite sex after 7pm, even holding hands with the opposite sex are seen as sexual immorality by the “custodians of global morals” who happen to have looked for employment in the same institution and found their calling in “the glorious Christian University”.

Who on earth taught these kind of people what the meaning of sexual immorality is? Do they even know what sex is? Till today they keep calling these things sexual immorality and they say it with so much disgust, like as if someone has committed an abomination or reduced themselves as a human, the women mostly are victims of all these kind of labelling (you can always smell so much hypocrisy in this definition and moral ideology of sex that is religiously propagated, anyday anytime).

All these rules and ideologies of my school above are just a tip of the candle on top of the cake.

Honestly, if you’ve finished digesting those rules and ideologies above, tell me why we shouldn’t annul the current definition of morality and begin today to refine and reprocess the failed version and illusion society has served us with as decency? On second thought we must not annul it completely but trust me when I say that the common perceived meaning of decency needs to be totally modified and edited to suit reality.

In the current academic environment I find myself in, why should I conform to their moral standards when it is so clear that the moral law setters are not in their right, rational and logical frame of mind. Their moral beliefs are so self-centred, egotistic, unhealthy, unrealistic and full of so much illusion and delusion.

When you look critically at the moral standards set by mostly religious institutions and society, you will always find out that most of their recommendations are not even applicable in a real life environment, but most religious moral setters never reason in a versatile way and in the end fail to realize that not everybody shares the same mentality with them and must do. The fact that I do not share into your ideology doesn’t mean I am wrong or must be condemned, why can’t we just call it truce and acknowledge the fact that nobody is wrong or right, we are just simply different human beings.

It is clear that there should always be a line that keeps us in sanity as a society and mentally and socially healthy, definitely yes, but that decision should be a blend of the compromise every dynamic human has put on the table for the general good and not from the product of the beliefs of some selfish religious self righteous people.

Why wouldn’t an innocent lady be slut-shamed in an environment similar to that of my school? When the so called moral custodians are so full of hypocrisy and deluded fantasies. In the end, most slut-shaming acts cannot be justified, it usually just happens as a result of discrimination and the selfish idea of human beings to want to modify the world to their liking. For crying out loud, the world is not your apartment or your estate! it is the home of all human life and creation and nobody has the right to determine how it should be, it is a blend of choices and culturally verified standpoints across the vast lands that set it, or at least recommend the setting.

The most annoying and embarrassing thing that comes with what slut-shamers do, is the fact that most of them still prey on the labels they give out and use it as an advantage to satisfy their hypocritical perverted desires. So I would ask, who is now the actual and original custodian of indecency?

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Written by Stephen Uba

I am the Pot of Beans behind Waterybeans.Com.

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